POST MARRIAGE AWAKENINGS
There is much more to a marriage than just a big dream wedding, fancy dresses and an extremely decorative interior. Marriage has its own challenges. Marrying someone is much easier than holding that marriage for a lifetime. It’s not only about the two individuals tying the knot but it’s also about the relations associated on each side accepting both of them as one.
People preach you with all sorts of their personal experiences when you are newly wed. But in my opinion every marriage has it’s own look out and every couple have their own experiences. It’s not easy to live up to the marriage as people might think you should. Everything is new for both the individuals, still almost all the times girl is expected to stand firm with every member of the family on the other side. This thought of making everyone happy sometimes collides with her own ideologies. Describing her cravings can be looked upon as being demanding. On the contrary, the husband is pampered and delivered with all sorts of answers to his every craving when at his mother-in-law’s home. There is no comparison or a competition, but the feeling of two individuals getting together for life does not hold true in such spots.
A girl has to try harder to fit in the new surroundings by accepting every behaviour, likes and dislikes keeping aside her own intrigues. But sometimes her wish of accepting others is mistaken as her indecisiveness. Out of respect the time when she chooses to stay quiet and let people think what they like to about her ability or knowledge, she is considered to be some unimpressive freak. She can sense certainly when she is been dragged to keep off the load physically and not mentally. Won’t it be admirable if she gets an appraisal just once.
Living a life where you have to manage all the relationship cores is not easy yet it can become one if there is an appreciation of the same. Being in a competitive world, marriage is not a competition with other couples. Every duo has their own prospects of sharing and dealing with after marriage feels. It’s difficult for some to understand this fact due to which they tend to imply their thoughts on every couple unaltered.
Choosing to be a housewife seems to be much more difficult than choosing a working life. On one hand, our folks want us to take care of the household cores and on other hand if you agree to do so, the eligibility of whatever degree you hold, or your ability to earn gets questionable. Being a housewife in the literal sense means a “HOUSE-MAKER”. Taking care of the family cannot make you some less knowledgeable person on earth. What the society thinks of our ability doesn’t matters unless we are satisfied with our inner self as we didn’t got married to prove our worth to all the mouth poppers we see around.
The moments when we feel “If mother had been around” are the moments with most grief. The society never fails to make us realise that there is a difference between daughters and daughter-in-laws. But we also accept this behaviour with time for the love of our other half. Accepting is at times considered to be the weakness. Yet there are many beautiful post marriage memoirs which cannot be left unsaid.